since when did i become the rational one

Ok, so i've always been one to be totally understanding of every person, every situation, and be open to all kinds of people. I know how diverse the world is. I also pay attention to history (jasmine remember the 180 you made in college? i made one too. i realized i love history. big time.) and I notice patterns - concepts and social norms and things that seem so well established become anachronistic against proliferating modern values. So I am probably the most understanding person there is on the planet. I can always see where everyone is coming from.

I love being someone that people can go to. I feel really idk, fulfilled when someone's venting to me. I take a personal interest. The only thing is, i can ALWAYS understand both sides of the situation. It's not a matter of taking sides, it's a matter of eliminating misunderstanding. So when my best friend for ever and my big brother by blood (not genetically, i only have two real little brothers and they are la luz de mi vida, i just call troy my "big brother by blood") are having a misunderstanding and I am in the middle, I take a personal interest in trying to fix the situation.

Here's the deal. I understand both of them. both of them are completely right in the context of their situations. In the beginning I told Troy that he was not doing anything wrong and I was glad he told me thats how he felt, and it was fine that he felt bad about it, but it happens all the time and theres nothing he can do about it. I told him to tell mia about it and they could work it out. But of course he thinks its against his values so instead he tries to pretend his urges dont exist so they will go away.

the thing about . ignoring bad things is that sometimes they don't go away. if something is persistent it won't go away. I know this for a fact because I'm one of those people who ignore things until they go away. like chemistry. i ignore it until it goes away. im telling myself i cant do that because it wont. like the whole situation with troy comes up anyway and mia is hurt by it.

Mia on the polar opposite end of the spectrum, I understand completely. Of course she is going to feel hurt because in her words she felt like there was nothing she could do. he is being greedy when she is doing everything and anything. why on earth would you want more? I feel like any guy who has all of that and isnt 110% satisfiied has serious greed issues. And above all she feels lied to. Which I can see, because she brought it up several times. And everytime he denied it, which I can also see because if I were him i would not have said something like that either.

So I'm blown. I can see why both of them feel the way they do. I really I gave them the best advice I could and try to get them to understand each other. Neither of them did anything wrong! I am happy that they have sorted things out - I'm rooting for a solution that would serve them both best in the long run. I was happy today to hear from troy and mia that they think the situation is more or less solved .

i mean when i heard some of the fears each of them had about the other when i know the truth ... i just wanted to dive right in and save them you know. hes worried that she will leave him. shes worried that he doesnt care. i know first hand that he cares just as much, if not more, than she does, and i also know that the absolute LAST thing mia would do is want to leave her penguin.

so idk i just had to blog this cause i had an objective perspective of the whole thing as it was unfolding. and i want them both to know i'm there for them as individuals, because im really rational and loyal. no matter what. i'm always going to be here for the people i love.

~ maybe i am hopelessly immature, but i've had a lot of experiences in life that make me able to think broadly and synthesize solutiona. dont hesitate to get my opinion guys - its up to you whether or not you think its good, but it's guarenteed to be valid.~