Tired of Being Nice

So i have always made a conscious effort to try and help out the people i care about in life however i could. whether it be actually helping them with something listening to a problem or just trying to make them smile when they are in a bad mood. but im starting see that no matter what i try to do it comes off wrong and i end up looking and/or feeling like the bad person. no matter how true my intentions may be i always end up being perceived as for lack of a better word an ass. and im really starting to get tired of it. like it is in my nature to help if i can and i dont do it to get recognition but at the same time i dont see a point in doing it if i still gonna end u looking like an ass in the end

so it got me to wondering if everyone sees me as an ass thats only does shit to further myself why the hell should i give 2 shits about helping anyone anymore. maybe i should just become this person that everyone else sees me as and then there wouldnt be an issue anymore.